Ken passed away March 18, 2015
in Lion's Gate Hospital, North Vancouver, BC from cancer. He is survived
by his wife Judy, son Robert, sister Louise (Tudy), brother Ron, niece
Suzanne, many nieces and nephews and countless friends.
I have never met anyone who did
not like Ken. He was always helping some one with something.
He could fix almost anything from cars to plumbing. He spent his
last 12 years working graveyard shift at 3 Way Chevron. Never missed
a days work, very healthy.
We were married for 30 years.
We had our ups and downs like most couples, but over the years we learned
to get along better. He had a good sense of humour and would shed
tears in a sad part of a movie. I had great respect for Ken and felt
very secure with him.
Because Ken was so healthy, I
became greatly concerned when he started having back pain which got increasingly
worse over February. His doctor kept sending him for xrays and giving
him stronger pain pills. Early in March he told me he could not live
with the pain anymore. I begged him to switch doctors, get a 2nd
opinion to find out what was wrong, he said his doctor knew what he was
doing. He started making regular trips to ER for a pain shot.
Then he could not eat and was throwing up very bad....I knew he was not
telling me everything then. Then early on a Sunday morning he had
a cab driver friend take him to get groceries while I was still asleep.
I woke up and saw all the groceries still in the bags (unsual as he always
put them away) I went through the apartment looking for him and saw his
back pack gone. I called ER..he was there and they got him to the
phone. He said he just got a pain shot and would be home in the morning
and made me promise not to come up. Next day, he wasn't home, his
cell was still dead so I had a nurse get him to phone me. He said
he decided to stay an extra day and promised to charge up his cell and
again asked me not to come up. That was Monday. Tuesday at
8:30AM I got a call from a doctor at the hospital and he said get up here
asap your husband is dying! What, I said he went for a shot for the
pain in his back you must be thinking of another patient. He said
Ken never told you? What? I asked. He has cancer and is in
the final stages.....I will be right up.
Ken was on morphine for the pain
and kept pulling his oxygen off and trying to get out of bed, saying I
want to go home, over & over again. They gave him something to
calm him down and with tears rolling down my face I stayed and told him
I loved him and and tears were rolling down his face. He was to have
radiation on his spine that afternoon, but his condition was to poor to
give the treatment. I finally went home in shock. Early Wed
morning (8:30AM) The same doctor called and said Ken had had a heart attack,
but they saved him, however all his organs were shutting down but the hearing
is the last to go, please get here asap. I remembered to call his
sister and we both arrived at the hospital. His nurse said he was
very agitated and could here me. His sister was crying and left the
room so I could talk to Ken. I told him he was and always would be
the love of my life. Also stroked his head showered him with kisses
and hugs and told him he was a very good husband. Finally I could
no longer hold the crying back so left the room and the nurse said she
was monitoring him while I was with him and he completely relaxed.
I had to run home for a pain killer for my arthritic knee and told his
nurse would be right back. I was just putting my coat on to
go back and the doctor phoned telling me Ken had passed away. He
asked if I wanted to see him, I said no, want to remember him warm
and still alive.
I was in shock for months and
crying so hard, a friend down the hall came down and held me in her arms
and let me cry. At least he is not in pain anymore, I am happy about
It has been 1and a half years now and
I still miss Ken....."The Love of My Life".
"I Love you, my sweet Ken"
"Love Always & Forever"
||My soul mate, best friend, loyal,
loving, caring, trustworthy.
You were, are, and always will be
"The Love of my Life"
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